Ok that title was a bit exaggerated so let me explain. I was thinking the other day about why we don’t always do better even when we know better. My conclusion is that a lot of it has to do with our environment and loved ones (family, friends, and partners) especially if we see them on a daily basis. When you decide that you want to make a significant shift – the kind that would make you a completely new person – you’re going to have to isolate yourself from them at least for a little while. You can’t change who you are and still maintain relationships based on who you use to be because those people will always remind you of your past self.
For example, if you have always told your friends that you didn’t wanted to get married or have kids they’ll remember that long after you’ve had a change of heart. So that when you get into a new relationship and begin expressing hope and excitement about your future with that person, your friends will probably say something snarky like, “Oh I thought you said you didn’t want to get married.” This then creates a snowball effect. Anytime you’re with those friends and you have a happy thought about your relationship, you’ll silence yourself because you don’t want them pointing out your “flaky” feelings. So instead of allowing yourself to be happy and excited you play along as if you’re still your old “I don’t care about love” self. Before you know it you’ve self-sabotaged and your relationship is over.
Self-talk is tough and practicing the law of attraction takes a lot of initial work but these things become almost impossible when you’re constantly being reminded of something you said or believed in the past. During your shift, your new mind is very vulnerable and you have to protect it. Until your new, positive thoughts become normal and unshakable you have to stay away from things (and people) of the past that might suck you back in.
But your family and friends are only one part of the problem. You also have to stop reminding yourself of the past.
Once you make the decision to shift, forgive yourself for ever believing negative thoughts – they no longer matter because you are being given a second chance at life. You also absolutely have to stop giving people the wrong impression about you. Stop frowning because they’ll think you’re still your angry self, stop ranting because you’ll sound like the old bitter you, stop giving power to your past. Every time you look or act like your past self, you give others permission to remind you of who you use to be. You’re not that person anymore so stop walking, talking, and looking like it. Move forward.