For the last few years, I’ve been living by Maya Angleou and Nikki Giovani’s advice to always start with ‘yes’. I’ve heard both of these legendary women encourage young dreamers to address opportunity with a yes and to then do your best to meet the expectation. They went on to say that if you find that you can’t fulfill the request, simply say “sorry”. Unfortunately, I’ve been saying a whole bunch of yeses and doing my best to avoid ever having to say sorry. The “just say yes” strategy has led me to some great opportunities but it has all come with a cost, namely sacrificing the time and energy that I once used for other things. This blog is something that has suffered the brunt of this practice.
I love my blog. It has been my baby for almost 2 years now and I can’t wait to see what it grows into in the future. Sucsass has been and will hopefully continue to be the foundation for so many other things that I will go on to do. But for my regular readers, you’ll notice a drastic decrease in my posts lately. I made the dreadful mistake of letting myself get too…busy *dun, dun, duuuuun*! We live in a busy society where everyone glorifies the grinder and workaholic. Sure, pushing yourself to take on new challenges is great but your motives should always be questioned: are you saying yes to opportunities that are aligned with your ultimate goals or are you simply saying yes to keep up with this hustler’s mentality? And I realized recently that I had begun taking on tasks out of sheer obligation. None of these tasks threw me off track but they also didn’t propel me in the direction of my dreams, they were just prolonging my journey.
I’ve since taken some time to redefine my core values (a set of activities that I’ve turned into a workshop that I’ll be offering to others) and eliminated anything on my to-do list that didn’t honor these standards. Slowing down has felt a bit strange but I just keep reminding myself of one important truth: saying no isn’t a question of my ability, it is a testament to my humanity.Our health and happiness deserve just as much attention as our goals do.