So everyone is buzzing about Kelly Ripa being blindsided by Michael Strahan leaving LIVE with Kelly and Michael. Kelly, having been with ABC for over 25 years, felt that she should have been given the respect of knowing that she would be losing her co-host of 5 years. Michael will be joining the cast of Good Morning America (yay, him!) but Kelly had to find that out along with the rest of the world.
Hurt and embarrassed, Kelly was a no-show for about 4 days before returning and airing her feelings about the network keeping Michael’s departure a secret from her. This kind of feels like a break up that she didn’t get the memo about until she came home from work and realized that he’d packed all his ‘ish and moved out. We feel ya pain, girl. But really, what’s the best way to handle being slighted at work? Not showing up for 4 days isn’t exactly an option for most of us. So here’s what to do:
- Give it some time – don’t react or respond immediately; that almost always causes a problem and exacerbates the situation. Give yourself at least 24 hours to just sleep on it.
- See it from their perspective – how often does someone make a decision with the specific intent of ruining your life? Rarely. Usually, they were just doing what was best for them and that happens to not work out well for you. But ask yourself, “What would I have done if it were me?”
- Leave others out of it – make sure that you’ve identified only those that were directly involved with the situation. Don’t act out or respond in a way that drags innocent bystanders into your emotion. Go straight to the source of your frustration.
- Communicate your emotion with facts– it isn’t just enough to say that something hurt your feelings (especially at work). Take some time to collect the data that supports why the decision is a detriment to you. By speaking logically (and maturely) you position yourself as someone worth being heard.
- Make your expectations clear – the situation is done; it’s happened. All you can do now is share how you hope similar situations would be handled in the future. Now that you’ve made your expectations clear, you can start again with a clean slate. Now if it happens AGAIN, well then, that might be the time to stir the pot a little.
Ultimately, work issues are about clarity and fair chances. If you’ve never encountered a situation before, everyone should be allowed one ‘benefit of the doubt’ pass until everyone can walk away more sensitive, respectful, and knowledgeable.